#010: How to Prepare for the Return of Your Missionary

In this solo episode with Nikki, she will be talking to the family and friends awaiting the return of their missionary! She will answer the questions you may be asking,

  • “Will they be different?”
  • “Will we be able to have the same relationship we had before they left?”
  • “How should I engage in conversation with them?” “
  • “What should I expect?”

 

Host: Nikki Romani

Here is a summary of the main takeaways from today’s episode:

“Will they be different?” 

Yes, they will be different, but so are you! You have continued on with life. Maybe no significant events occurred while you were a part, but with each new day comes new challenges to face, new struggles, new celebrations. Maybe in fact you did have a huge life altering event such as getting married, having a baby, moving, or something more serious like getting an illness or disease. Something to remember though, is that both of you are the same down to your core.

“Will we be able to have the same relationship we had before they left?” 

Maybe. With my family, much was the same, but we had all grown up a bit. We had much to catch up on!

Suggestion:

I told the girls I babysit to pick a number between 1-11 and whatever number they choose, that’s the month I tell a story from. You and your loved one can do the same! But not just having the missionary share a story, you share one as well from that month!

I have to be honest, there are some friends that I had a relationship with before the race and once I returned our friendship faded.

But there are friendships I had before the race that grew stronger while we were a part and continue to grow deeper each day even now.

“How should I engage in conversation with them?”

  • Be yourself!
  • Ask specific questions such as
    • How did God show up?
    • What did you learn about yourself?
    • What gifts and talents did you discover about yourself? Passions?
    • What kind of people did you meet and interact with?
    • How can I help you during this process? (for this one they may not know, but as long as you ask so they know you are available!)
    • Is there a country that stood out to you the most that you would love to visit again one day? If so, which country and why?

A key thing to keep in mind upon the arrival of your missionary is to keep an open mind.

Allow space for them to share their experiences from the physical to the spiritual. You may believe the same things they do, or you may not. That’s ok! But sit with them and listen to what they want to share with you. And they should do the same for you! They should have an open mind with what you have experienced and believe.

“What should I expect?”

A person going through re-entry may experience things such as:

  • Pulled out of a situation that became their “normal” and placed into an old but new situation
  • Returns to where they once were before they left; it looks the same but feels different.
  • They are a different person, they have changed, and yet so have you as the supportive person.
  • People around them have continued life without them and now they feel out of place and unwanted.
  • Feel as though what they had just experienced was a dream
  • Had a sense of purpose and now do not know what to do
  • Someone told them what to do, where to go, made their travel plans and now they feel unable to make certain decisions on their own.
  • Went from constantly being around people to being alone
    • May feel a sense of relief at first but feeling fades
  • May feel as though no one understands them, but this is why they need you!

At the end of the day, enjoy and celebrate the homecoming of your loved one from the mission field. They are the same person with added experiences and traits! They are looking forward to seeing you as well, I just know it! Spend time together and talk. Share about each other’s lives for the past number of days or months you were apart. This is a precious time. Treasure it.

For more information on this topic, the M2B team is in the processing of putting together training videos for you! So keep a look out for those on our website. If you want to stay updated on when those will be released, sign up for our newsletter to get the inside scoop at m2bministries.org

Share this episode with other family members or friends of your missionary returning home if you feel it will help them prepare!

 

 

Have any questions? Feel free to leave a comment below!

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#009: Building an International Life in the States

In this solo episode with Betsy she will be discussing how to build an international life while living at home in the US. You will look at 8 areas of life that you can incorporate into your daily routine to bring elements of what you loved about living abroad.

 

Host: Betsy Ramser Jaime

Here is a summary of the main takeaways from today’s episode:

8 Areas of Life that Allow You to Build an International Life at Home:

  1. Food
    1. What were your favorite foods when living abroad? Make a list!
  2. People
    1. Find ways to interact with people from other places in your daily life through markets, universities, etc.
  3. Home + Decor
    1. What items have you collected from your travels?
    2. Or, what would you like to collect to remember your experiences?
  4. Learn a Language
    1. Or, become a Conversation Partner for a language learner.
  5. Support Organization/Missionaries
  6. Memories
  7. Work + Volunteer

Also, here are the ingredients for the Asian Cucumber Salad that I mentioned in the episode:

  • Cucumbers
  • Crushed red pepper flakes
  • Chopped garlic
  • Vinegar
  • Oil
  • Soy Sauce

You can use as much or as little of the crushed red pepper and garlic as you want. And for the dressing, if I’m using one cucumber I use about 1.5 tablespoons of vinegar and 3 tablespoons of oil and add soy sauce to your liking.

Have any questions? Feel free to leave a comment below!

 

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#008: How to Learn From Your Failures

In this solo episode with Betsy she will be discussing the topic of Failure. While it’s not something that most of us like to talk about, we all experience different degrees of failure throughout our lives. It’s important to allow yourself to recognize failure when it happens and to also learn from the experience so that the same mistakes are not repeated.

Host: Betsy Ramser Jaime

Here is a summary of the main takeaways from today’s episode:

  1. Learn to celebrate failure: We all fail. It’s human. And the more you fail, the more you learn. And if you’re an overachiever, which you probably are if you’re listening to this podcast, then create your own failure resume.
  2. Pivot: Use your failures as data points and decide if it’s time to persevere or do you need to pivot or transition?
  3. Keep Going: When we fail, the natural feeling is to want to stop, but don’t let it keep you down.

We also talked about creating a Failure Resume. To learn more about what this entails feel free to click here or here or feel free to leave a comment below.

In the episode I referenced this book, The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying

Also, for more information on Pivoting, the book Pivot by Jenny Blake is a great resource!

 

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#007: An Interview On Being Human and Holiness with Matt Blair

In this episode, Victoria interviews Matt Blair, who has worked for several years at Adventures with hundreds of World Race and Gap Year participants! Listen more to hear about his heart for people!

Host: Victoria Maynez

This is episode 7 of The Great Return podcast. Today, Victoria interviews Matt Blair. He has worked for Adventures for several years now and has seen hundreds of Gap Year and World Racers come through. He is the WR Gap Year Manager of Men’s Discipleship & Special Projects. He is passionate about holiness and pursing the heart of God and humor. He leaves us with three tips for re-entry to give you a snapshot:

1. Neglecting the opposite of something that is not following God isn’t the same as following God.
2. Celebrate experiences because of their inherent value.
3. Seek Holiness.

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#006: Transitioning to a New Career

In this episode, Betsy will take you through 5 steps to help you in making a career change or transition. If you are stuck and feel like you either have too many options, or don’t even know what your options are, this will help you to narrow down your choices.

Host: Betsy Ramser Jaime

This is episode 6 of The Great Return podcast. Today Betsy will be your host. This episode will cover steps to help you prepare for a career change or transition. 

5 Steps to Prepare for a Career Transition:

  1. Think about Location
    1. Do you want to live in a city, town, somewhere new?
    2. Do you want to work remotely in a physical office?
  2. Consider the environment
    1. Do you prefer a formal or casual workplace?
    2. Would you like to work in a small, medium, or large company or organization?
    3. Is traditional or innovative more your style?
  3. Think about lifestyle
    1. How many hours do you want to work each week?
    2. Are you willing to make sacrifices? If so, what are they?
  4. Make a list of companies, industries, or job positions that you find interesting
  5. Information Interviews
    1. Contact 10-20 people and ask them for 5-10 minutes of their time to learn more about what they do.

Helpful Resources:

  • LinkedIn
  • Glassdoor
  • Career Contessa
  • Muse

As the Career Enthusiast for M2B I am excited to help you grow and thrive in your career. If you would like to see more career related episodes please leave a comment below and let me know what would be most helpful.

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