#013: How to Thrive with a Routine

In this episode, Nikki, will share with you how having a routine will actually make you feel more free and become more successful. She will also share the importance of a routine during any transition. Nikki will give an example of her own routine to help your creative juices to flow to come up with your own! She mentions a book and the following link will take you to that book kit.com/M2B/m2b-team-favorites

 

Host: Nikki Romani

We as humans need routine. We need structure. When we don’t have routine, we feel lost, sometimes unmotivated, no sense of direction. Think of a child who doesn’t have a routine. They misbehave, run around wild, and are unsure of themselves. We are this way as adults. We may not be running around with our hands flailing in the air, but our minds may feel that discombobulated and all over the place!

 

It’s especially important to have structure and routine during transition. Transitions are a time of stepping into the unknown, stepping into something new. You experience change. And with change and a new experience you can feel at a loss, feel unsure. But when you have some type of routine during this time, you can feel more grounded and have a sense of direction. Say you are moving to a new city, you can still set a bedtime to stick to each day. You can still read before you go to bed. You can still wake up around the same time each day. There are ways you can create a routine in the midst of change.

 

With a routine, you will feel more secure about your surrounds and yourself. You will find you have more freedom because you will have the structure to be able to do the things you want to, have a sense of pride because you are able to accomplish more, and be able to thrive while doing it.

 

Let me give you an example of a routine by using my own. Disclaimer, this took time to figure out. I had to experiment and figure out what worked best for me!

 

Your routine starts the night before so at night I

  • Make my schedule for the following day. This includes an estimate of the actual time I will be doing each tasks. And I start with writing down the time I wake up.
  • Lay out my clothes for the gym
  • Fill my water bottle that I take with me to the gym
  • Have a plan of what I will be eating for food
  • And have a goal of how much water I am going to drink the next day. Drinking water is so so important. I try to drink at least half my body weight in ounces, but I try to drink a bit more. I feel more alert when I do!

I do all of this before 9pm. Then I put my phone on airplane mode and set it to the side. It’s good to not have any screen time an hour to 30 minutes before you go to sleep, because the blue light of the screen stimulates your eyes and makes it harder for you to fall asleep and have good quality sleep.

 

I grab a book and read for 30 minutes and go to sleep by 9:30pm.

 

I know I need at least 8 hours of sleep so since I get up at 5:30am, I know I need to sleep by 9:30 to get those full 8 hours. I found this out by experimenting with bedtimes and wake up times. And I found I feel my best when I go to bed early and wake up early and get at least 8 hours.

Upon waking up in the morning, I put on my clothes that I have already laid out for myself the night before, grab my water bottle and head to the gym to make a 6am class. I work out for an hour, come home shower, make coffee, and have quiet time with Jesus. And it’s not until after my quiet time that I turn my phone off of airplane mode. A friend of mine once told me this is my sacred space. And she was so right! This is me time. No one can interrupt me. I have to be honest, there are some days this morning routine doesn’t happen, but let me tell you, I feel a little off, not grounded, and don’t thrive like I do when I do this routine and have my scared time.

 

This all came with experimenting and took time. I was not always a morning person, but the more personal development books I read, and the more I heard of successful people having a morning routine, the more I wanted to try it. And let me tell you, it has changed my life! I feel awesome! A book I recommend which takes about a morning routine is called, Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod. https://kit.com/M2B/m2b-team-favorites

 

You need to figure out what works for you! Maybe you like your quiet time in the evening. That is perfectly ok. Maybe you enjoy working out in the evening. That is ok too. But you need to find your sacred space and do this each and every day so it becomes a habit. Try a certain routine for a couple weeks. If it doesn’t end up working out, switch it up a bit. Change your bedtime, or the time you wake up. Whatever you need to do, but try it out for a week or so before completely changing it.

 

I am all about routines because I have seen how they have helped me become a better version of myself and become much more productive! Because I have created a routine for myself, I have been able to get much more done each day. It’s honestly really refreshing! I feel so accomplished at the end of the day! And I am excited for the next day!

 

I hope this has been helpful for you and you have gained a new appreciation and perspective for routine! That with routine comes freedom and success!

 

If you had a friend come to mind while you were listening to this share this episode with them! And write a review about your routine! We would love to hear from you!

 

Have any questions? Feel free to leave a comment below!

 

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#012: Should I Go Back To School?

In this episode of the Great Return Betsy will be chatting with her husband, Josh Jaime about his decision to return to college after his mission trip, The World Race. We will cover each of his transitions from working at a bank, to going on the World Race, to returning home after the race to study engineering. If you are considering going back to school, then this is a great episode for you!

 

Host: Betsy Ramser Jaime

Here is a summary of the main takeaways from today’s episode:

  1. Start with the End Goal: Before you decide whether or not to go back to school, it’s important to know your end goal. And, is a degree or certification what you need to reach that particular goal?
  2. Avoid the Shoulds: Make sure that your decision is what is right for YOU rather than what your parents or friends think is right for you. You know yourself better than anyone.
  3. Find Hobbies/Clubs outside of School: If you end up going back to school, make sure to find hobbies or other interests that are relaxing and give you a short break from the pressures of your studies.

Have any questions? Feel free to leave a comment below!

For more specifics about the decision making process of returning to school, check out our blog post called: Should I Go Back to School?

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#011: The Importance of Mentorship

In this episode, Nikki, Betsy, and Victoria will be discussing the importance of a mentor, how you can find a mentor, and how to become a mentor. They will also share some personal experiences with mentoring as well as M2B’s revamped Navigator Mentorship!
m2bministries.org/navigator-mentorship/

Host: Nikki, Betsy, Victoria

In this episode, Nikki, Betsy, and Victoria will be discussing the importance of a mentor, how you can find a mentor, and how to become a mentor. They will also share some personal experiences with mentoring as well as M2B’s revamped Navigator Mentorship!
m2bministries.org/navigator-mentorship/

 

Part 1: Nikki (Overview of Mentoring)

  • What is a Mentor?
    • A trusted counselor, guide, coach
    • Someone of wise counsel, gives advice, has your best interests in mind, knowledgeable
  • Why is it important to have a mentor?
    • Has experience in the area you are stepping into
    • Can share the “dos” and don’ts”
    • Someone to talk stuff out with, ask questions to, they should ask your questions as well
    • Discipleship – Jesus tells us to “go and make disciples” which requires time, establishing relationships, trust, guidance.
    • Bottom line: In order to grow you need a mentor
  • How can I find a mentor?
    • Within your community
    • Church
    • WR alumni group
    • Go to our website m2bministries.org/navigator-mentorshi
  • How do I become a mentor?
    • Establish relationships with people in the space you want to mentor
    • Church
    • Community
    • Our website!

*Important note: if you want to be a mentor, you must have a mentor yourself. Take John Maxwell, Andy Stanley, Brene Brown for example. They all have mentors, counselors, coaches as they mentor and teach thousands of people themselves!

Part 2: Betsy (experience as a Navigator)

Part 3: Navigator Mentorship (VICTORIA)

Getting a facelift!

  1. A mentorship relationship with a returning racer meeting in person twice a month for 6 months and following M2B mentorship curriculum.
  2. Willing to connect with you Captain over the phone once a month (10-20 minutes) for accountability.

Click here to apply to be a Navigator or to apply for a Navigator.

And don’t forget to write a review and subscribe!

 

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#010: How to Prepare for the Return of Your Missionary

In this solo episode with Nikki, she will be talking to the family and friends awaiting the return of their missionary! She will answer the questions you may be asking,

  • “Will they be different?”
  • “Will we be able to have the same relationship we had before they left?”
  • “How should I engage in conversation with them?” “
  • “What should I expect?”

 

Host: Nikki Romani

Here is a summary of the main takeaways from today’s episode:

“Will they be different?” 

Yes, they will be different, but so are you! You have continued on with life. Maybe no significant events occurred while you were a part, but with each new day comes new challenges to face, new struggles, new celebrations. Maybe in fact you did have a huge life altering event such as getting married, having a baby, moving, or something more serious like getting an illness or disease. Something to remember though, is that both of you are the same down to your core.

“Will we be able to have the same relationship we had before they left?” 

Maybe. With my family, much was the same, but we had all grown up a bit. We had much to catch up on!

Suggestion:

I told the girls I babysit to pick a number between 1-11 and whatever number they choose, that’s the month I tell a story from. You and your loved one can do the same! But not just having the missionary share a story, you share one as well from that month!

I have to be honest, there are some friends that I had a relationship with before the race and once I returned our friendship faded.

But there are friendships I had before the race that grew stronger while we were a part and continue to grow deeper each day even now.

“How should I engage in conversation with them?”

  • Be yourself!
  • Ask specific questions such as
    • How did God show up?
    • What did you learn about yourself?
    • What gifts and talents did you discover about yourself? Passions?
    • What kind of people did you meet and interact with?
    • How can I help you during this process? (for this one they may not know, but as long as you ask so they know you are available!)
    • Is there a country that stood out to you the most that you would love to visit again one day? If so, which country and why?

A key thing to keep in mind upon the arrival of your missionary is to keep an open mind.

Allow space for them to share their experiences from the physical to the spiritual. You may believe the same things they do, or you may not. That’s ok! But sit with them and listen to what they want to share with you. And they should do the same for you! They should have an open mind with what you have experienced and believe.

“What should I expect?”

A person going through re-entry may experience things such as:

  • Pulled out of a situation that became their “normal” and placed into an old but new situation
  • Returns to where they once were before they left; it looks the same but feels different.
  • They are a different person, they have changed, and yet so have you as the supportive person.
  • People around them have continued life without them and now they feel out of place and unwanted.
  • Feel as though what they had just experienced was a dream
  • Had a sense of purpose and now do not know what to do
  • Someone told them what to do, where to go, made their travel plans and now they feel unable to make certain decisions on their own.
  • Went from constantly being around people to being alone
    • May feel a sense of relief at first but feeling fades
  • May feel as though no one understands them, but this is why they need you!

At the end of the day, enjoy and celebrate the homecoming of your loved one from the mission field. They are the same person with added experiences and traits! They are looking forward to seeing you as well, I just know it! Spend time together and talk. Share about each other’s lives for the past number of days or months you were apart. This is a precious time. Treasure it.

For more information on this topic, the M2B team is in the processing of putting together training videos for you! So keep a look out for those on our website. If you want to stay updated on when those will be released, sign up for our newsletter to get the inside scoop at m2bministries.org

Share this episode with other family members or friends of your missionary returning home if you feel it will help them prepare!

 

 

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#009: Building an International Life in the States

In this solo episode with Betsy she will be discussing how to build an international life while living at home in the US. You will look at 8 areas of life that you can incorporate into your daily routine to bring elements of what you loved about living abroad.

 

Host: Betsy Ramser Jaime

Here is a summary of the main takeaways from today’s episode:

8 Areas of Life that Allow You to Build an International Life at Home:

  1. Food
    1. What were your favorite foods when living abroad? Make a list!
  2. People
    1. Find ways to interact with people from other places in your daily life through markets, universities, etc.
  3. Home + Decor
    1. What items have you collected from your travels?
    2. Or, what would you like to collect to remember your experiences?
  4. Learn a Language
    1. Or, become a Conversation Partner for a language learner.
  5. Support Organization/Missionaries
  6. Memories
  7. Work + Volunteer

Also, here are the ingredients for the Asian Cucumber Salad that I mentioned in the episode:

  • Cucumbers
  • Crushed red pepper flakes
  • Chopped garlic
  • Vinegar
  • Oil
  • Soy Sauce

You can use as much or as little of the crushed red pepper and garlic as you want. And for the dressing, if I’m using one cucumber I use about 1.5 tablespoons of vinegar and 3 tablespoons of oil and add soy sauce to your liking.

Have any questions? Feel free to leave a comment below!

 

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